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During the initial consultation, which will take a couple of hours, we will clarify the goals of our work together and
“where it hurts:” the motivation behind your wanting to work. For example, when there is difficulty in any of four
major areas of a person’s life, there is life-energy that is restricted or even stuck, and that can have a profound
debilitating effect on every other area in the person’s life. These areas are all related to each other: persons, work,
the body/physical life, and ultimate concerns/life-meaning. A person’s attempt to continue on despite the difficulty
in one of these areas can in turn create further imbalance and what’s worse, mask the underlying problem (which
may be too uncomfortable to work with directly, yet…). Some examples:
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Sarah is seriously stressed. She has difficulty falling asleep at night and often wakes up much earlier than she
would like. She often finds herself picking up a meal at a drive-through and eating it in her car while driving to
something for which she is running late. She has frequent tension headaches, and most recently, she has noticed
that she seems to pick up every cold that is making the office rounds. She has decided it’s time for a major
course correction in her life but is not sure where to start or what direction to go.
Jim has just turned 50 (a significant milestone for him) and has been through a series of major life changes
that have disrupted his world. His company relocated him and his job responsibilities have changed (he is not
happy with the changes). He experiences his relationships as being in turmoil and the recreational activities that
he used to enjoy no longer seem relaxing or fulfilling. At his job, he sometimes finds himself feeling completely
drained and ready to go home and crash and it’s not even lunchtime.
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In each of these examples, the overall goal of our work together would be the integration of disowned aspects of
yourself (shadow work), unblocking bound energy (where is it stuck?), releasing creativity (think new thoughts and
find new paths) and finding in yourself everything you need to move forward in your life (instead of looking outside
yourself for that strength and direction).
Because our model is “integral,” we approach the work from four areas: bodywork, mindwork, spiritwork, and shadow
work. After determining the initial focus of your work, we select a set of core practices on a “try this and see how it
works” basis, practices that will move you toward your desired outcome from the Life Integration Matrix. If there is
a particular practice for which we do not have the training, we outsource to a network of trusted colleagues.
A next step might be filling out your goal sheet, where the actual practices in each of the areas are recorded. At the
beginning of your work, one or two practices in each area will probably be most appropriate. As you progress through
your program, it may become important to add (or subtract) practices. In every case, the work will evolve with you
and the work will adjust to reflect your growth and progress. We will fill out this worksheet during the weekly
coaching/counseling sessions. Part of our job is to help you be accountable to yourself.
“Attitudes” can also be “practices;” “beliefs” that do not serve you or which may be self-defeating or even self-destructive
are “practices” You have practiced some of these for a long time and replacing them with beliefs and attitudes that are
more accurate and self-creative takes practice!
If “finding the time” is an issue for you, we will help you work with a weekly planning grid to create the time for your
Life Integration Program. You will block out all the times you are already committed (job and other scheduled appointments).
We will work to schedule in sleep time, recreation time, time for journal work and the other practices you have determined,
and schedule your weekly massage/bodywork session and coaching/counseling session.
We will bring in the resources to help you as we go along. Articles, exercises, self-discovery tools, and personalized coaching
will help you expand your “map of reality,” and it is exactly this larger context that gives you the answers you need to the
most pressing issues in your life.
Across the next 16 sessions of your program you will work with your practices. For many of them you will work on your
own, and for others you will work with a trained professional (your weekly massage/bodywork session, for example) or
with a group (enrolling in a yoga class, for example). During each weekly check-in we will review your experience
together and adjust as necessary.
At the end the program, you will not only have experienced a profound shift in your experience of yourself and your
life, but you will also have experience with a set of tools/practices that fit you which you can use to continue your growth,
whether it be with us or working on your own. The course correction you make will “stick” because of these practices
and your commitment to using them.
"Both the Intensive Journal Workshop and the Integrative Lifework process
provided me with a powerful and fully authentic lifeline
back to myself; one that I can rely on now and in the future."
+ NSM (Wisconsin)
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